This or That/Work-safe

The question library · Work-safe

Safe for the 9am. Divisive by 9:03.

Thirty questions tested in real standups, retros, and the awkward minute while everyone joins the call — organized from safest opener to spiciest split.

Work This or That has one job: get every voice in the room activated in under two minutes, before the real agenda starts. It works because the questions are about habits, not opinions that matter — nobody's career depends on where they stand on inbox zero, but everybody stands somewhere.

Use one question to open a standup, three to five for a kickoff or retro, and the whole deck for exactly nothing — a marathon kills it. The lists below are tiered so you can match the question to how well the team knows each other: openers for any room, deeper cuts once the group has a rhythm, and the spicy tier for teams that can survive learning who replies-all on purpose.

Question 1 of 30 · Work-safe

Camera on or Camera off?

Editor's picks

If you only ask one.

Best all-rounder

Camera on or camera off?

Outs the whole team's remote philosophy in five seconds, and the minority defense is always excellent. The rare question that's funny for the group and genuinely useful data for whoever runs the meetings.

Biggest laughs

Inbox zero or inbox thousands?

People don't answer this question — they confess it. The inbox-thousands crowd is always bigger than anyone expects, and weirdly proud. Follow up with the actual number for the gasp.

Sneakiest signal

One long meeting or three short ones?

This one's a survey wearing a party hat. The split tells you how your team actually wants to work — worth remembering when you build next quarter's calendar.

The full set

Thirty questions, three tiers.

The openers

1–10 · Any room, any team

Zero-risk starters. New team, big meeting, senior leadership lurking — these are safe everywhere and still get a real split.

  1. 1Camera on or Camera off?The all-rounder. See editor's picks above.
  2. 2Email or Quick meeting?
  3. 3Standing desk or Sitting desk?
  4. 4One long meeting or Three short ones?
  5. 5Inbox zero or Inbox thousands?People don't answer this — they confess it.
  6. 6Deep work mornings or Deep work nights?
  7. 7Handwritten notes or Typed notes?
  8. 8Open office or Headphones on?
  9. 9Monday planning or Friday planning?
  10. 10Keyboard shortcuts or Mouse everything?

Deeper cuts

11–20 · Teams with a rhythm

For groups that have done this before. The answers start to reference each other — "of course Sam said silent brainstorm."

  1. 11Hot desk or Assigned seat?
  2. 12Async video or Written doc?
  3. 13Meeting agenda or Meeting vibes?Agenda people and vibes people genuinely cannot comprehend each other.
  4. 14Walking 1:1 or Conference room 1:1?
  5. 15Work playlist or Work silence?
  6. 16Big monitor or Laptop everywhere?
  7. 17Leave early Friday or Start late Monday?
  8. 18Team lunch or Team happy hour?
  9. 19Out-loud brainstorm or Silent sticky notes?Quietly a personality test for how people think.
  10. 20Notifications on or Do-not-disturb forever?

The spicy tier

21–30 · Teams that can take it

Still HR-safe, no longer feelings-safe. These generate actual debate — deploy when the team is warmed up, and be ready to cut the thermostat one off at two minutes.

  1. 21Say “this could’ve been an email” or Just think it?Someone will say it about this meeting. Lean in.
  2. 22Reply-all or Forward quietly?
  3. 23Exclamation points: friendly or Exclamation points: suspicious?
  4. 24Camera off: cozy or Camera off: sus?Handle with care on hybrid teams — the split gets loud.
  5. 25Lunch at desk or Lunch away?
  6. 26Calendar: color-coded or Calendar: chaos?
  7. 27Reply in the thread or Start a new message?
  8. 28Monday motivation posts: love or Monday motivation posts: mute?
  9. 29Office thermostat: warmer or Office thermostat: colder?The only question on this page that has ended friendships. Two-minute cap.
  10. 30Meeting ends early: leave or Meeting ends early: small talk?

Running it at work

Four rules from a thousand standups.

One per standup beats ten per offsiteA single question takes sixty seconds and becomes a ritual people show up early for. A This or That marathon becomes a meeting, and nobody shows up early for meetings.
Poll first, then interrogate the minorityGet the split with a show of hands or an emoji flood, then ask one minority voter for their ten-second defense. The defense is the content; the poll is just the setup.
The answers are data — quietly use themIf two-thirds of the team picks camera off, that's not trivia, that's feedback. This game is the cheapest team survey you'll ever run. Don't announce that part.
Retire questions like a good DJOnce everyone knows everyone's answer, the question is dead — rotate it out. A team of ten burns through about one question a week, which is why there are thirty on this page.

Write your own

What makes a work question work.

  • Both sides must be defensible. You want a 60/40 split, not 95/5. If one answer is obviously correct, it's a quiz, not a question.
  • Zero real stakes. The question should be about habits and preferences — never about anything someone's salary, workload, or job depends on.
  • Concrete nouns beat abstractions. "Standing desk or sitting desk" lands; "structure or flexibility" gets you a philosophy seminar.
  • Answerable in five seconds. If people need context or caveats to answer, the question is doing too much. Cut it in half.

Autopsy of a bad question

"Remote work or office work?"

Looks like a This or That. Isn't one. People have commutes, leases, and childcare riding on the answer — that's a policy debate wearing a party game's clothes, and it will eat your whole standup.

"Camera on or camera off?"

Same territory, zero stakes. It's about a habit, not a livelihood — so it stays a game.

stakes are the whole difference.

Quick answers

Before you ask.

How many questions should I actually ask?

One to open a standup. Three to five for a kickoff, retro, or all-hands warm-up. Never the whole list in one sitting — the game's power is that it ends before anyone's tired of it.

This or That vs. Would You Rather — what's the difference?

This or That is preferences between real things — fast, low-stakes, and quietly revealing about who people are. Would You Rather is hypotheticals, which run slower and sillier. Open with This or That; save Would You Rather for when the team wants to argue about something absurd.

What if someone refuses to pick a side?

The no-abstaining rule is the game — "it depends" is banned. If someone's genuinely stuck, offer the escape hatch: "which one annoys you less?" Nobody has ever failed to answer that.

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